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Posted: Mon Sep 24th, 2007 06:22 am |
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| Hello, My name is Ruth, i am 38 years old and was melested when I was 10, it took till I was 27 years old before I let out the fact that my grandfather was melesting me! I have lived thru this nightmare for years with nobody to talk to, until I actually met a guy that i truely love with everything in me, and I feel like this nightmare is causing problems between us, problems that he just doesn't understand! I have been married and divorced with three kids! The secret I hide for years caused my divorce and It's a nightmare I do not want to take into this relationship, so, how do I get all the anger, hurt madness out? Please if anyone out there can help, i'm so open to suggestions!! For years I have wrapped myself into work and my kids that I don't know actually how to stop the outbursts with my new boyfriend, outbursts he just doesn't know where they come from, I don't know where they come from other than I'm very insecure, I guess, is this part of the feelings I need to work on?
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Posted: Wed Sep 26th, 2007 05:38 am |
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Ruth-
I don't know that I can give you any advice, except that I am learning that the more I talk, the more I am able to not lash out at those that I love. What has happened to us is one of the most terrible crimes of mankind. It is too great to handle on our own or in secret.
Are you seeing a therapist? Have you told your boyfriend? Do you have someone that you trust to talk to?
Keeping the secret only causes more anger and shame to churn inside. Keep coming back here and sharing, get a journal and write everything that comes to your mind good, bad, or ugly. Talk, talk talk, just let it out.
This is a safe place, you can share whatever you need to here. You are not alone, I think that all of us have experienced these "outburts" and wonder where the heck they came from?! Don't give up! Sending you all my love and support! God Bless.
Andrea
Last edited on Wed Sep 26th, 2007 05:38 am by Letty
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